There are two sides to every story; the Chinese express it as Yin (black) and Yang (white). Many react with cultural bias by assuming white is good and black is bad. The idea of balance is possibly one of the greatest victims of political correctness. It has distorted climate science, because they only considered one side and refused to follow the scientific method.
My long-term career goal changed as progress was better than expected, but the central theme remained. Three events were pivotal.
Failure is normal and essential. The adage that man learns little from success but much from failure can’t work if you prevent or ignore failure. Rewarding failure also belittles success. Why obey the speed limit if others speed with impunity?